As a court reporter, I needed to maintain my composure at all times, no matter what happened in a deposition or trial or how I felt about it. After years of suppressing my emotions in my career, I understood what feelings were intellectually but had difficulty expressing them. And needs? Clueless. This ignorance resulted in several damaged relationships and three failed marriages.
In 2009, I was introduced to the Connection Practice and was astonished at the simplicity and transformative power of the exercises. I liked that these tools are grounded in science, so I committed to getting trained and becoming a coach. Two years later, I was invited to be a facilitator at a course and had an epiphany.
As I observed intelligent, highly educated participants struggling to understand the new language of feelings and needs, I realized that the foundation of all human conflict manifests from sensations (i.e., feelings) that arise in us when we have met or unmet needs:
SAD? ANGRY? WORRIED? SCARED? ANXIOUS? = UNMET NEEDS
HAPPY? SATISFIED? EXCITED? AT PEACE? = MET NEEDS
When you are faced with an emotionally challenging situation, the amygdala (the part of the brain that manages emotions) scans past memories of similar events. Finding one, it starts pumping “fight or flight” hormones (i.e., adrenaline, cortisol, etc.) faster than you can think. As these stress hormones flood your body, your heart beats faster, your breathing is shallow, your palms may get sweaty, you can’t think clearly, and your habitual patterns kick in – wanting to run, hide or lash out.
The amygdala can keep us trapped in negative emotional patterns, and we tend to overreact to situations. These habitual patterns can lead to stress, heart disease and other health challenges and prevent us from experiencing happiness. In the extreme, violence may result.
The Connection Practice is a skill that unites your empathy and insight for accelerated personal and professional growth. Empathy is attained through a conscious connection to feelings and needs, and insight is accessed through heart-brain coherence. The synergy between empathy and insight maximizes your social and emotional intelligence, builds resilience and enhances performance.
You too can transform the amygdala’s reaction and connect with your heart’s wisdom in as little as 60 seconds. With this process, learn how to:
— Stop negative feelings immediately
— Maintain emotional balance, even in times of turmoil and stress
— Think clearly, which helps to solve conflicts creatively
— Experience deeper self-confidence so that you can perform at your very best
As a certified Connection Practice Coach and Trainer for individuals and groups, I help participants learn how to give themselves self-empathy by connecting with their feelings and needs and to gain insights into situations in their lives that create stress, anxiety, worry, fear, sadness, and shame. Some of the results experienced by my clients include greater self-acceptance; deeper connections with others; ability to pass exams; increased self-awareness; ability to respond more clearly to triggers; greater resiliency; and much more.
Learn how to connect with YOUR feelings and needs, give yourself empathy, bring compassion to every situation and create a life that brings you greater HAPPINESS and EASE. Click below to schedule your introductory session – the first 30 minutes are free. After that, only $1.00 per minute.
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