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BePeace_Costa Rica_2kids-bigAs a court reporter, I needed to maintain my composure at all times, no matter what happened in a deposition or trial or how I felt about it. After years of suppressing my emotions in my career, I understood what feelings were intellectually but had difficulty expressing them. And needs? Clueless. This ignorance resulted in several damaged relationships and three failed marriages.

In 2009, several friends returned from a week-long workshop in Costa Rica with Rita Marie Johnson, founder of Rasur Foundation International, where they had learned about the Connection Practice®. They all looked happier and at peace. Discovering that Ms. Johnson was traveling to Walnut Creek, California to share the same tools my friends had learned, I signed up for her 40-hour course and was astonished at the simplicity and transformative power of the experiential, interactive exercises. I liked that the processes are grounded in science, so I committed to getting trained and becoming a coach. Two years later, I was invited to be a facilitator at a course and had an epiphany.  

As I observed intelligent, highly educated participants struggling to understand and practice the new language of feelings and needs, I realized (1) if people with advanced degrees had trouble, then I could get off my own back for not mastering the information; (2) feelings and needs are universal – no matter our age, culture, religion or beliefs, social-economic status, or education; and (3) the foundation of all human conflict stems from reacting to sensations (i.e., feelings) that arise in us when we have unmet needs:

SAD? ANGRY? WORRIED? SCARED? ANXIOUS? = UNMET NEEDS

HAPPY? SATISFIED? EXCITED? AT PEACE? = MET NEEDS

When we are faced with an emotionally challenging situation, the amygdala (the part of the brain that manages emotions) scans past memories of similar events.  Finding one, it starts pumping “fight or flight” hormones (i.e., adrenaline, cortisol, etc.) faster than we can think. As these stress hormones flood our body, our heart beats faster, our breathing is shallow, our palms may get sweaty, we can’t think clearly, and our habitual patterns kick in – wanting to run, hide or lash out.

The amygdala can keep us trapped in a negative emotional pattern loop, and we tend to overreact to situations. These habitual patterns can lead to stress, heart disease and other health challenges and prevent us from experiencing happiness. In the extreme, violence may result.

The Connection Practice is a skill that unites your empathy and insight for accelerated personal and professional growth. Empathy is attained through a conscious connection to feelings and needs, and insight is accessed through heart-brain coherence. The synergy between empathy and insight maximizes your social and emotional intelligence, builds resilience and enhances performance.”

— Rita Marie Johnson

We can transform the amygdala’s reaction and connect with our heart’s wisdom by learning how to:

— Stop negative feelings immediately

— Maintain emotional balance, even in times of turmoil and stress

— Think clearly, which helps to solve conflicts creatively

— Experience deeper self-confidence to respond to triggers and perform at our best

As a certified Connection Practice Coach and Trainer for individuals and groups, I help participants learn how to give themselves self-empathy by connecting with their feelings and needs and to gain insights into situations in their lives that create stress, anxiety, worry, fear, sadness, and shame. Some of the results experienced by my clients include greater self-acceptance; deeper connections with others; ability to pass exams; increased self-awareness; ability to respond more clearly to triggers; greater resiliency; and much more.

Learn how to connect with YOUR feelings and needs, give yourself empathy, bring compassion to every situation and create a life that brings you greater HAPPINESS and EASE.  Click below to schedule your introductory session – the first 30 minutes are free. After that, only $1.00 per minute.book consultation button

 Photo and graphic provided by Rasur Foundation International - http://rasurinternational.org.
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